Tiara Ray is Crazy and Humorous

Everyone is given the same 24 hours in one day, but we all choose to spend it differently.

Take a look in the way a crazy-multi-lingual-optimist chooses to spend her days. Oh, I'm talking about myself, in case you were wondering.

Looking forward to getting to know you!
girl bonding

“Girl bonding” is very important. We all need girlfriends we talk to about “girl stuff,” which is everything from penis size, a mean girl from school who’s now a fat cow, to talking about getting a promotion at work. A few days ago, my roommate invited me to the movies. Beauty and the Beast had been playing for a few days, so she bought three tickets. One ticket for herself, one for our classmate, 李丽婷 (Li LiTing), and one for me. I love the cartoon, so why not go see the […]

My Life in China

Learning Chinese has been very interesting so far. The funniest thing, is that there are so many synonyms for one word, but they (sometimes) cannot be used interchangeably. That’s what’s a bit of a head scratcher from time to time, but it keeps things interesting. Let me tell you about some funny blunders I made learning Chinese. 筷子VS 快子 When I first arrived in China, I said to myself, “Girl, you’re in China now. You have to eat like Chinese, go out and get yourself some chopsticks.” A quick Chinese lesson […]

My Life in China
Chinese Christmas

Chinese Christmas… What’s there to say? First, Chinese people don’t believe in Christmas, it’s not an important day here, not even a holiday. The younger generation does (kind of) celebrate it, because of the exposure to Western culture. Most Chinese I’ve met, think everything “American” is cool. So, most things, mannerisms, what-have-you, are copied to a fault. My first Chinese Christmas sucked ass. Really sucked ass. It was my first Christmas (EVER!) not being in my country. It wasn’t the first I hadn’t celebrated with the family, but I was […]

My Life in China
busy bee

BUSY BEE! That’s ME! The second semester started three weeks ago. I’ve been very busy doing homework, writing my daily dose of my experiences in China (in Chinese), polishing one of my novels, and preparing to take the HSK 5 exam a month from now. I’ve been pretty busy. Now that I can express myself better in Chinese, my vocabulary is up to 6,000 words now, I’ve been rewriting the stories I wrote last year. The story in the picture below hasn’t been corrected by my teacher yet, so it’s […]

long distance relationships

Image Source My boyfriend and I have been together for two years, almost as long as I’ve been in China. We met about three months before I came here. When we met, none of us thought it would turn into the loving relationship it is now, but I guess God had other plans for us. Never in my wildest dreams did I think I would be one half in a long distance relationship. Some people asked me, “If you love each other so much, why aren’t you there with him?” As selfish […]

natural hair journey

My natural hair journey began in 2016. I’ve been on the natural hair bandwagon for a couple of months now. New to the club, I’m learning all types of things, like crochet, sisterlocks, fake dreads, I love it all. Before my transition, I had short hair for over twelve years. One of my friends told me to change up the hair, I’d had that same hairstyle for over a decade, but I didn’t mind. That hairstyle is timeless. Most people wonder why I decided to go on this natural hair […]

Chinese street food

Chinese food hasn’t exactly been good to my stomach. So, I bet you’ll all be surprised when I tell you I’m trying Chinese street food? Now that my stomach has settled a bit, I am taking a walk on the adventurous side. When I came back in October, I had the runs almost every single day for three weeks. Not something you want to hear, I know, but it has to be told. I can’t predict the future, but I can tell you two things that will happen to you […]

My Life in China
real hair

When I decided to trade in my chemically-treated-hair for my real hair, many people liked the new change. So do I! I think I look younger, fresher, and sexy. That’s a word I never would’ve used to describe myself, “sexy.” It’s good to see that I’ve grown, that I appreciate myself more. I think it’s very important that we, women, find ourselves sexy. The media shouldn’t define what is sexy. Half the women on Instagram, on the cover of magazines don’t even look like that. They’re airbrushed to the max, […]

natural hair

I’ve been chemically treating my hair since the age of twelve. As a graduation present from Mom and Dad, I relaxed my hair at the age of twelve. On my way to Secondary Modern School, I really wanted to belong to “the cool” crowd. What was not cool? Going to “big kids” school with my natural hair, my thick braids. Thanks to both my Grans, I have thick and beautiful hair. Of course I wasn’t proud of it at the time. All of the magazine covers graced with white women with […]

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  • photoshoots

    Me talking to 小李, barista at my favorite coffee shop

Oh, if you look at the picture, you’ll see what I mean when I wrote in my last blog that I’m tall here. I look angry, but I’m not. I’m just concentrating on my friend, she speaks fast, LOL. Photoshoots are part of every day life here in China, especially if you’re a foreigner. People take your picture without asking, but Chinese pose for pictures all the day the whole day. I bet they take more selfies than Kim K. Being a Black woman in China has its ups and downs. […]

My Life in China