Social Distancing Day 13 and Counting, People!

Social distancing and the repercussions it has had on my social life so far… Well, nothing has changed, really. I have always been a homebody. Uh… Let me say that I have been a homebody for the last thirteen to fourteen years. When I was in my early teens to (at least) my early twenties, I used to have this ‘party demon’ inside of me. I HAD TO go to every concert, every show, all of the school parties, and the nightclubs during the weekend.

Whenever or wherever there was a party, a band or some kind of gathering, I was there. My parents are lucky I was not into alcohol. The only thing I did from time to time was smoke a cigarette. It was when I turned twenty-five that I upped my drinking game a little. I went from drinking one beer to two beers. Now that I am thirty-five, my limit is four when in a bar, eight when indoors. And I am talking about the small Heineken.

So now with social distancing, you can guess that my life has not changed at all.

The only that has changed is that I cannot work. As I have mentioned in previous blogs, I work for two cultural anthropologists. Yes, I linked ‘cultural anthropology,’ because I had to explain to a lot of people what that is and what they do. Now that we are in lockdown, it definitely will do those people a lot of good to pick up a book… or to get better acquainted with their phones instead of only using it to play games and browse PornHub. You CAN use it to type keywords on Google and look stuff up as well. If you did not know, now you know. No need to thank me. I am all for self-improvement, so I am glad I could help.

Before social distancing was even an issue, a long-time friend of mine & I went out for a few drinks.

These pictures were taken more than a month ago. There already were some confirmed cases in Brazil, but the virus had not reached here yet. He is one of my closest friends. We met over nine years ago and we have kept in touch. His name is Fernando and he loves in Goias in Brazil. He was here visiting his mother, who owns a machine in the garimpo, so he & I caught up. It just means that his mother is making money mining gold. Not that she is doing it herself, that is what the machine is for.

I wonder how they are dealing with the whole social distancing stuff in the garimpo.

I had time off work for two to three days, so Fernando and I went out for a few beers… and cigarettes. Yes, I have kicked the habit, I do not buy packs anymore. But I do tend to smoke when I am drinking alcohol. And in case you are interested, Fernando is gorgeous inside and out, single, and ready to start something serious with his Prince Charming. I just love how he has grown so much in the years that I have known him. He has found inner peace & I am so happy for him! It also took me a long time to find it, so I know how amazing it feels once you get there. I have so much love for this young man.

He is also doing the social distancing thing back in Brazil. Of course, he is going stir-crazy.

Fernando is used to socializing, he has a very active social life. Me? I do not socialize all that much. Most of my friends are married with kids… or they live in a different country. There is Ashleen, she has moved back to France. Then there is Marcio, Stephen, Goncalves, they are either back in China or in Angola.

When the virus started to get out of control in China, many of my friends fled the country. Now… there is no telling when they will be able to return.

Since March 28, 2020, the Chinese government has banned the entry of all foreigners. Sorry for you if you have a valid visa or residence permit… you are not allowed to enter. Not as long as there is corona…

So are you wondering what I have been up to during this social distancing period? I cannot work, I do not often go out, so what am I doing? Many, many things.

I have been reading a lot. I am on Goodreads & I challenged myself this year: I will read 70 books! Okay, I am seven books behind schedule, but now I have a lot of time to catch up. Come to think of it, I might start blogging about books I read & series that I watch. Would that be interesting? *Chuckle*. Have I already told you that I do not care, because I blog about what I like? LOL 🙂

There also are many, many blogs left to write about my time in China. It is on my schedule to get to them ASAP! Those posts will be about my time in China and my work here, I hope you will be able to keep up.

Guess what else: I also finished my first draft! It is a memoir about my first year in China & I have to fine-tune it. You have no idea how happy I am! I am so proud of myself! Now I just need to finish it and send it to literary agents in China. Yes, it is written for the Chinese market, not for the American market. I do not see the added value in someone living in a country other than China reading about my time in China.

My time in China was amazing & I am so glad that I was blessed to experience it.

People from different backgrounds who live in different countries did read it and have given me feedback. All of them thought it was interesting to read about my experiences, but my Chinese friends were even more intrigued. And that is what I want because they are my desired audience. Let me also add here that writing it in Chinese is a motherfucking headache.

So tell me… how are you spending your time?


Tiara Ray

I am grateful & blessed to have the life I live. (Soon to be) Traditionally published & self-published author in her mid-thirties. I unsuccessfully tried changing this picture numerous times, so I just left it. I wish you lots of love & may you get what you need. <3


  1. I am from Italy and we had it so bad here. So many deaths. It didn’t matter I had to stay inside because so many people died every day. I don’t mind being inside if it will stop the deaths

    • Yes, I saw, I am so sorry about that. I hope it will be over soon. Lots of hugs to you & everyone who has lost someone or has survived this virus.

  2. You and your friend look like a great couple. That’s some serious boob action, btw.

  3. I’ve a very active social life, so I feel like I’ve been inside for 30 years. People in my country are tired and are disobeying the lockdown. I can understand but I think it’s irresponsible. Let’s pray it’ll all be over soon. God bless you and yours.

    • LOL, a friend of mine is going stir-crazy at home. She’s out and about all day the whole day. But now she’s home all day the whole day. LOL. I don’t know what you’re going through, but I can feel your pain. Hang in there, and don’t be like the rest: stay at home.

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