Self-love Is A Beautiful Thing

Self-love is an integral part of my existence, I absolutely adore that word, and recent events have made me think differently about it. Before we can give ourselves to someone else, we first need to know who we are and what we want. And guess what? It is overflowing over here! Since I have been back, I have received so much warmth from my parents! Our relationship so great and I am grateful to have such amazing parents and that I decided to spend some time at home. It is fantastic to learn more about them now that they are retired.

I have written about love before, and well… I am still very much single. A few weeks ago, I decided to just chill, focus my attention on other things. There was this amazing guy who really did have genuine feelings for me, but I am entering a new phase in my life, working on my next adventure, and there is only room for so much. Am I talking to people and interested in people? Sure, I am not dead yet. There are people I like and I might consider dating when everything I am working on at the moment turns out the way I want it to. One requirement: we need to be in the same country.

I am not into long-distance relationships anymore. – Image Source

I am not into long-distance relationships anymore, tried it once, did not work out, not going there again. That is THE MAIN REASON I did not see it working out between that great guy and I. I am not willing to move somewhere just to start a relationship with someone. No, no no, baby. That is not me. I need to want to live in that country, be able to work there (of course I will be), and again, TRULY want to live there.

Due to certain circumstances, he cannot move here to be with me. So in the words of Porky Pig: “That’s all, folks!” And that’s a wrap!

People think that when you are single you have to be miserable and lonely. Well, let me tell you: I am not miserable and nowhere near lonely. Would I like to be in a committed relationship with the right person? Sure. But like I wrote, he has to be the right person for me and I have to be the right person for him. I do not have the energy to entertain men and ‘relationships’ I know are going nowhere.

If it is not going anywhere, I do not give it energy. NEXT!

Having experienced everything you don’t want in a partner over time, it starts to narrow down to what you actually do want. As I get older, I realize wha qualities are important in love and what suits me. And what I won’t settle for.


We can date (no sex), talk, hang, go to dinner, sure. But there is no one I am taking seriously at the moment. Especially not men who say they are not looking for a relationship but are open to it (that is just guy talk for I only want to have fun”) or guys who claim to like you but their actions tell a different story. Those guys can miss me with their bullshit and I ignore them so quick they get whiplash. There is someone I like (A LOT), the feeling is mutual. But no rush, all will happen when the time is right.

I am enjoying working on myself and my dreams a little too much. Yes, I am pretty optimistic about the future and well… I am happy! <3

Self-love leads to happiness. <3

When you know yourself, know what you want, you will not settle for someone offering you less than you deserve. Always stand in your power, respect yourself so others know to respect you, and the right person for you will come along when you least expect it. I was not looking, but there he was/is, and he is here to stay, that I know. No more bullshit games, that is so refreshing. But, as I said before, I am not focused on dating at the moment… but… when I reach my goals, I know he will be there waiting for me. And then we shall see what happens.

Until next time, love yourself, respect yourself and block energy vampires who are only taking and not reciprocating! <3

Tiara Ray

I am grateful & blessed to have the life I live. (Soon to be) Traditionally published & self-published author in her mid-thirties. I unsuccessfully tried changing this picture numerous times, so I just left it. I wish you lots of love & may you get what you need. <3

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