Welcome! My name is Tiara Ray. Some call me "Crazy," others say I'm "Humorous." I'm just Me.

Everyone is given the same 24 hours in one day, but no one's 24 hours are identical. Mine are spent in a beautiful city on the other side of the world.

Life is what you make it. In 2015 I decided to treat every new day as an adventure, an opportunity to create beautiful memories. I moved to Xiamen, a beautiful city in China's southern Fujian Province. Learning new things are like air for me: if I'm not learning something new, I feel like I'm suffocating. I would love to hear from you, so don't be shy.

Always smile and remember to not sweat the small stuff... because it's all small stuff. Xx!
learning Chinese

Learning Chinese again, people! I arrived almost two months late. Why? I thought classes started around the second week of September, for that’s when they told me to arrive last year. So, I just assumed I needed to be back around that time. Besides my stupidity, I didn’t have a passport. Before I left for China in September 2015, I knew my passport would expire in less than a year. My Daddy told me to apply for a new one before leaving Suriname, but I was so happy I would […]

My Life in China
learning about blogging

Blogging is more than just a hobby for me now. It’s more of a necessity. I never knew one could get addicted to blogging. When I started my first blog, I used Blogger. One of the main reasons I did that, is because its so easy to navigate. Some time afterwards, I started seeing beautiful self-hosted blogs and thought, “THAT is what I need to do! See you, Blogger!” What I didn’t know at the time, is that if one buys one of those pretty themes from Themeforest, you also have […]


Ashleen is one of the most remarkable people I’ve met. The day I stalked and snapped a picture with Ronaldinho, is also the day I added one new person to my circle of friends. How we met is very interesting. I don’t remember the exact details of how she managed to get close to Ronaldinho his entourage, but that did lead to us exchanging numbers and meeting up again afterwards. Anyway, Ashleen spent a couple of hours with them. So, here is when I first saw her… it was by the elevator after […]

My Life in China

Ronaldinho Gaucho… yes, I know who he is. I “met” him in China. Why is the word “met” between quotations? Well, when you meet someone, you usually tell them your name. I know his name, of course, but I didn’t officially shake his hand to introduce myself. There was no time, and he’d probably forget my name the a second after hearing it. My name isn’t the easiest to pronounce, and I’m pretty sure he hears a lot of names on a daily basis. Do I know anything about soccer? […]

My Life in China

FYI: R10 is a nickname for Ronaldinho. I had to differentiate between part one of the blog and this one, so I will refer to Ronaldinho as R10 here. I returned to his hotel the next day. Same old story again. Sat in the lobby for almost two hours. To prevent myself from getting kicked out, I ordered a cup of tea. I paid 60 Renminbi for that tea. Before I left for his hotel, I told Maycon to keep his phone nearby, because I’m getting that picture with R10. […]

My Life in China

凤凰对苏里南高高兴的说: “再见苏里南!” 说“再见苏里南” 真的不容易。我舍不得离开妈妈,舍不得离开爸爸,我姐姐和她的孩子。2015 年初的时候,我知道这一年我的生活会有所改变。但是,我并不知道会有这么大 的变化。这一年,我收获了很多,我学会了怎么去体谅别人。在此之前,我犯了很多错,因为我不会体谅别人,这种性格真的不好。有的时候,我们应该离开我们熟悉的环境。每个家庭都有自己的问题,每个人也在跟自己斗争中成长,这是一件很艰难的事。你的家人也许并不真正了解你,他们对你的判断也可能是错的。这时,我们应该离开他们,去一个陌生的地方。来到中国是我认为,我做得最好的一件事情。因为在这儿我开始了解自己,认识自己。我做了很多的改变。在离开苏里南的时候,我知道不可能就这么快回去 。我的晚会跟我的家庭真的很好玩儿。 那天我不知道我的表妹多在我们的阿姨的家。他们送给我蛋糕,他们都很高兴我能渠道中国学习中文。我真的很惊讶! 因为我不太喜欢蛋糕,所以我只吃了一小小的口蛋糕。我不知道如果那个蛋糕好吃,我不喜欢那样儿的蛋糕。今年九月我又再说这句话。 再见苏里南   如果你们看有些东西我写了不对了,请你们告诉我!    

My Life in China - Chinese Version
annoying questions

Think of the most annoying questions someone ever asked you. Now imagine multiple people asking you that same annoying question on a daily basis. Being Black in China has its ups and downs. The downsides are, that I had to get used to the constant stares. It seems hard to believe, but there are still some Chinese who’ve never seen non-Chinese people before. Every single place I went, people took pictures of me. Did they have my permission? No. They just snap away. Some do have the courtesy to ask if […]

My Life in China
ordering Chinese food

Ordering Chinese food is another thing that complicated my first month in China. As you’ve read before, my first month in China was a disaster. I’m a loner, but I felt out of place for a while. It had more to do with not having a group I belonged to. I realized everyone wants to belong somewhere, but I belonged nowhere. Because of that, I started socializing with Chinese people. That’s also how my Chinese improved the way it did. I forgot to tell you about the Surinamese young man […]

My Life in China

Moving to a new place is challenging. Imagine packing up your stuff, selling everything you own, to move to the other side of the world. I did that. Of course many did that before me, it’s nothing special. But when you’re the only one in your family who’s ever changed their life so drastically, it’s very special. Now let’s get to it: COMMUNICATION! It’s one of the most important words for every living creature under the sun. I know, my classmates all look really nice, right? That’s because they ARE! Although […]

My Life in China

在来中国之前,我就常常与在中国留学的苏里南朋友聊天,因为这样能提前更好地了解中国。根据他们所说的,他们在中国并没有太好的经历,他们跟我说他们的很糟糕的经历: “中国人不喜欢洗澡,尤其夏天的时候!” “中国人不会用防臭剂。” “中国人很无礼。” “中国大多是种族主义者。” “中国人到哪都吐痰。” “中国人都只喜欢白肤金发。” 此外,他们就没有说更多的好话。当然,对此我并不是完全相信。为什么?因为每个人都有自己的家庭背景和经历,所以看法自然会有偏差。我认为我们对待别人的方式,正是他们对待我们的方式,而他们告诉我的关于中国的一切,也是别人告诉他们的。 “如果中国真的是世上最糟糕的地方,为什么他们还要在那个坏的地方生活?” 他们刚来中国的时候,对中国人已经有不好的印象了,这当然会影响他们的行为。我的想法是这样的:如果两个人有问题,他们俩都有错。 世界上任何一个地方肯定都有好人跟坏人,但是我不会让别人的看法和经历影响我的思维方式,我要自己去体会这一切。听了他们对中国的评价以后,我是这么想的: 这让我觉得很好笑。不过,我刚来中国的时候,确实感觉有点不安。我在逛街的时候,有些中国人看到我,就好像我是外星人一样。我真的不舒服,也喜欢走路 。来中国之前,我只知道我是一个女人。在苏里南有不同的民族。我从来觉得自己是少数民族。 在这儿我也是我第一次发觉我不仅是个女人,而且还是黑女人。在那时候,华文学院的苏里南朋友总是陪着我,如果遇到其他人的,他就会特意告诉别人我是苏里南人。我不了解为什么他要这样做。后来,他告诉我: “因为你是黑人,所以别人会认为你是非洲人。在中国非洲人的名声不太好。” 很糟糕的看法,对不对? 现在我在中国有八个月了,这八个月的经历经历,使我跟其他苏里南朋友的意见产生了分歧。中国人并不都是种族主义者;他们也不乱吐痰;也不都喜欢白肤金发的人。而我发现:有些中国人想跟外国人交朋友,是因为他们知道外国人大部分会说英语,而他们想要练习说英语。还有些中国人未经你的允许就随意给你拍照,这样做很无礼,我就经常被拍照,但我不知道为什么。此外,在中国有些饭馆不太卫生,厨房甚至很脏。我刚来时,每天都拉肚子,现在我已经习惯了,只是时不时还有小的问题。总之,我很高兴来到中国,也很庆辛来到这个美丽的地方。我觉得,如果我的朋友还觉得中国是上最糟糕的地方,他们可以去加勒比留学。我们护照是加勒比的, 我们不需要办签证。 每个地方都有坏事,也有好事,其实中国的经济比苏里南的好得多。苏里南人现在的生活非常糟糕。我希望我能继续学下去, 这样,我的父母以后就能依靠我了。      

My Life in China - Chinese Version