Tiara Ray is Crazy and Humorous

Everyone is given the same 24 hours in one day, but we all choose to spend it differently. I chose to spend some time on the other side of the world, experiencing new things.

I am grateful for the many experiences, the many great people I've met. Take a look into my life. Well, some part of it. Enjoy!

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long distance relationships

Image Source My boyfriend and I have been together for two years, almost as long as I’ve been in China. We met about three months before I came here. When we met, none of us thought it would turn into the loving relationship it is now, but I guess God had other plans for us. Never in my wildest dreams did I think I would be one half in a long distance relationship. Some people asked me, “If you love each other so much, why aren’t you there with him?” As selfish […]

natural hair journey

My natural hair journey began in 2016. I’ve been on the natural hair bandwagon for a couple of months now. New to the club, I’m learning all types of things, like crochet, sisterlocks, fake dreads, I love it all. Before my transition, I had short hair for over twelve years. One of my friends told me to change up the hair, I’d had that same hairstyle for over a decade, but I didn’t mind. That hairstyle is timeless. Most people wonder why I decided to go on this natural hair […]

Chinese street food

Chinese food hasn’t exactly been good to my stomach. So, I bet you’ll all be surprised when I tell you I’m trying Chinese street food? Now that my stomach has settled a bit, I am taking a walk on the adventurous side. When I came back in October, I had the runs almost every single day for three weeks. Not something you want to hear, I know, but it has to be told. I can’t predict the future, but I can tell you two things that will happen to you […]

My Life in China
real hair

When I decided to trade in my chemically-treated-hair for my real hair, many people liked the new change. So do I! I think I look younger, fresher, and sexy. That’s a word I never would’ve used to describe myself, “sexy.” It’s good to see that I’ve grown, that I appreciate myself more. I think it’s very important that we, women, find ourselves sexy. The media shouldn’t define what is sexy. Half the women on Instagram, on the cover of magazines don’t even look like that. They’re airbrushed to the max, […]

natural hair

I’ve been chemically treating my hair since the age of twelve. As a graduation present from Mom and Dad, I relaxed my hair at the age of twelve. On my way to Secondary Modern School, I really wanted to belong to “the cool” crowd. What was not cool? Going to “big kids” school with my natural hair, my thick braids. Thanks to both my Grans, I have thick and beautiful hair. Of course I wasn’t proud of it at the time. All of the magazine covers graced with white women with […]

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  • photoshoots

    Me talking to 小李, barista at my favorite coffee shop

Oh, if you look at the picture, you’ll see what I mean when I wrote in my last blog that I’m tall here. I look angry, but I’m not. I’m just concentrating on my friend, she speaks fast, LOL. Photoshoots are part of every day life here in China, especially if you’re a foreigner. People take your picture without asking, but Chinese pose for pictures all the day the whole day. I bet they take more selfies than Kim K. Being a Black woman in China has its ups and downs. […]

My Life in China

The writers among us know how difficult it can be to stick to a writing schedule. I, too, am guilty of this. The only writing schedule I successfully stick to, is my Chinese Journal schedule. That’s where I write about my experiences in China… in Chinese.   In order to improve my Chinese, I wrote about my day, my emotions, what-have-you, in a notebook that I handed to my Grammar teacher almost every day. At the end of the first year, we had to write an essay about something we experienced here in China. Writing […]

Self-Publishing JourneyWriting

Writing has been a part of my life for as long as I can remember. I have been doing it for more than thirteen years now. It all started with my obsession with Ginuwine. I think I was fifteen or fourteen at the time, and I’d force my best friend to read them. The obsession was so real, I even made her call me “Mrs. Lumpkin,” LOL. That’s Ginuwine his legal name, “Elgin Lumpkin.” Wow, the obsession was real. Glad that is something of the past now. I used to write in notebooks, […]


The first time the government told me I would be coming to China, I was a bit disappointed that I wouldn’t be living in Beijing. The school of my choice was the Beijing Language and Culture University. Since this scholarship is for government employees and only for Xiamen, I had to come here. I must be honest and say that I was totally bummed out when I realized Jimei (集美) would be my home for the next coming years. What was so great about Jimei? For starters, Xiamen (厦门), the […]

My Life in China
new year's resolutions

New year’s resolutions… I make them every year, but unfortunately, I don’t end up keeping all of them. The most important new year’s resolution for 2017, is taking the HSK  (汉语水平考试) level 5 exam. In order to fulfill one of the resolutions that makes it onto the list every year, I need to pass this important exam. More than two weeks into the new year, and this my first blog post. Happy new year to you all! Any new year’s resolutions (y’all plan on not keeping)? Usually when the new […]

My Life in China