Welcome! My name is Tiara Ray. Some call me "Crazy," others say I'm "Humorous." I'm just Me.

Everyone is given the same 24 hours in one day, but no one's 24 hours are identical. Mine are spent in a beautiful city on the other side of the world.

Life is what you make it. In 2015 I decided to treat every new day as an adventure, an opportunity to create beautiful memories. I moved to Xiamen, a beautiful city in China's southern Fujian Province. Learning new things are like air for me: if I'm not learning something new, I feel like I'm suffocating. I would love to hear from you, so don't be shy.

Always smile and remember to not sweat the small stuff... because it's all small stuff. Xx!

Image Source – Rolling Stoned NL I love adventure! No idea where I get that from, because my parents really aren’t thrill seekers. Before I tell you about a very exciting part of my life back home, let me tell you where exactly my beautiful country is. Though my beautiful country is located in South America, it is part of the Caribbean Community. Our country’s history and that of the Caribbean islands, is the same. We had slaves brought over from Africa, then Asian indentured laborers. I also think some island […]

Chinese drinking game

It was a Saturday night, I was at my favorite coffee shop. A friend of mine, Hai Bin (海滨) invited me out for drinks. He and his girlfriend just broke up, so he was a bit down. Besides, his sister was in town, and he wanted us to meet.   I don’t know why I sometimes look like something a cat coughed up, but I do. It’s not always true that a picture speaks a thousand words, I’m cute, LOL! He has become a good friend, we often have lunch […]

My Life in China

Looking back at my first year in China, is amazing. I have learned so much, grown so much, and also met a lot of amazing people. Some will be my friends for life! Before I continue, I need to apologize for the quality of the pictures. They were taken with great camera’s, but somehow, they look pretty crappy here. One thing these ladies love, is taking a good picture. All of them ready to pose for the camera. I guess it’s an Asian thing, because Chinese take selfies all day, […]

My Life in China
birthday girl

Birthday Girl, that is ME! Happy 32 birthday to me! I thankful to be a year older, definitely wiser, and much happier than ever before. Extremely grateful to God Almighty for guiding me through hard times, taking toxic people off my path, and keeping me out of harm’s way. My life wouldn’t be so full of love and amazing family and friends, if it weren’t for God, Our Father. How did the Birthday Girl spend her first birthday abroad? Keep reading! Last year was my first year abroad, my first […]

My Life in China
PMS binge eating

Premenstrual syndrome (PMS) refers to physical and emotional symptoms that occur in the one to two weeks before a woman’s period. Symptoms often vary between women and resolve around the start of bleeding. Common symptoms include acne, tender breasts, bloating, feeling tired, irritability, and mood changes. Often symptoms are present for around six days. – Source: Wikipedia PMS is very real, people. Mine is different every single month. Some months I smell like wet dog, then I have to change deodorant. I always buy two types of deodorant, just in […]

My Life in China
Guangzhou cuisine

Guangzhou cuisine! Time for some food! I have the afternoon off every Friday, so my friends and I decided to go to a restaurant. The good thing about China, is the opportunity to try different types of food. The bad thing, is the lack in good quality food. I have written about my trouble adjusting to the food here, that’s no secret. But, since a couple of weeks, I have come to love street food a lot! My roommate loves food, so she suggested we try this new restaurant. I […]

My Life in China
writing romance

I often thought it would be easy to write the perfect romance. And why not? I’m a woman, the majority of romance novel readers are women, of course I can do it! I mean, I know what women want to read, right? WRONG! I’ve been walking around with the idea of becoming a published author, for many years now. It all started when I was still in high school, and very obsessed with the boy-band B2K. MSN was very popular at the time, so there were many groups dedicated to […]

Self-Publishing JourneyWriting
grocery shopping

Grocery shopping in China is very interesting, especially if you’re a Black woman with braids. I have been in China for over a year. My first year here, I spent a lot of money on eating in Western restaurants. My tummy had a lot of trouble adjusting to the lack of food safety in China. I am used to it now (somewhat), and don’t have many problems anymore. Last year, we prepared our own food. I sometimes cooked, not always. Grocery shopping was interesting, for I didn’t (and still don’t) […]

My Life in China
sunday lunch

My roommate is from Thailand. She and I met last year, when we both first came to China. We were in the same class. Her Chinese was far better than mine when we came, so she didn’t have any problem understanding our teachers. For me, that was a totally different story. Not only is she an amazing person, her birthday is April 8, mine is April 9. I thought we would be more alike, but we are as different as night and day. Nattiya is loving, kind, intelligent, positive, just […]

My Life in China
dating myself

The most fun I had dating, was when I started dating myself. Every single week, I look forward to Date Night! There was a time I wouldn’t be caught dead having dinner alone. I always thought people who dined by themselves were sad. The first thing that crossed my mind was, “Don’t they have any friends to have dinner with? Poor soul.” Have no idea why, but people eating or drinking alone, always gives me the idea they are lonely. Now that I am in a different phase in life, […]